Series of tweets from a young mother:
Baby just tossed himself off of bed and onto hardwood floor. Am worst mother, ever.
Seconds later: (He's fine. I'm not.)
Six minutes later: 6 and a half months old. Husky fella, but still: BABY
Two minutes after that: It was a high bed. Will berate myself forever.
Four minutes pass, then: Thanks, all, for the reassurance that I am not, in fact, the worst mother ever.
It does occur to one that the trauma could not be oh-so-bad if she could turn her back on her baby and occupy herself with her invisible friends in the computer. One could even be a bit scathing about emotional aggrandizement/grandstanding and self-indulgence, if one were of a cynical turn of mind. (And an unkind one.) You would also be missing the crux of the messages.
It's the last tweet that reveals the core reality. Did she truly think she was the worst mother in the world? No. She is an intelligent woman. (She is. Highly.) She knows there are vastly worse things a parent could do (and have done) to a child than a mere moment's inattention.
Was she, however, shaken and in need of reassurance?
Verily.
And she got it. In spades, within seconds, and from a variety of sources. For all its flaws, the Internet can be a good and kindly place.
Which is why we're all here, right?
Baby just tossed himself off of bed and onto hardwood floor. Am worst mother, ever.
Seconds later: (He's fine. I'm not.)
Six minutes later: 6 and a half months old. Husky fella, but still: BABY
Two minutes after that: It was a high bed. Will berate myself forever.
Four minutes pass, then: Thanks, all, for the reassurance that I am not, in fact, the worst mother ever.
It does occur to one that the trauma could not be oh-so-bad if she could turn her back on her baby and occupy herself with her invisible friends in the computer. One could even be a bit scathing about emotional aggrandizement/grandstanding and self-indulgence, if one were of a cynical turn of mind. (And an unkind one.) You would also be missing the crux of the messages.
It's the last tweet that reveals the core reality. Did she truly think she was the worst mother in the world? No. She is an intelligent woman. (She is. Highly.) She knows there are vastly worse things a parent could do (and have done) to a child than a mere moment's inattention.
Was she, however, shaken and in need of reassurance?
Verily.
And she got it. In spades, within seconds, and from a variety of sources. For all its flaws, the Internet can be a good and kindly place.
Which is why we're all here, right?
Labels: parenting, pearls of wisdom
1 Comments:
And THAT is one (of many) reasons I love the Internet. Keeps me sane(ish).
By meanderwithme, at 10:20 a.m.
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